Julie Carter
Through the ages and at some point, every man learns the wisdom of not comparing his wife to his mother. Usually.
In
the world of ranching, that lesson is no different nor is it learned
with any less difficulty or any greater speed. The learning curve is
often fractured by the reverse of the situation --when the cowboy has
married a ranch-raised gal that grew up working right alongside the men
of the family.
Not
one ever known for being open to new ideas, especially if they weren’t
his own, a rancher’s times of high stress, worry and life-or-death
concern magnify that situation exponentially.
The record-setting drought along with the record-setting fire danger has put the aforementioned emotions in raw form.
Somewhere
along the way, many a Mr. Husband Rancher will get the idea he is the
only one worried, like it’s his job alone. He might exhibit signs of
being a little resentful about that but he also wears it like a coat of
arms.
His
wife, whose life’s existence depends on the same source as his, knows
the signs as well as he. She rarely, if ever, gives up the hard-learned
lessons of her rural roots.
Life changing decisions will need to be made, and soon.
The
discussions that follow vary only in the terms of partnerships that
have been established over the years. However, this crossroads of
planning is not the first time he and she have met at the kitchen table,
the corral gate or the saddle house to discuss methods of doing
business or techniques appropriate to the moment.
And,
the “discussion” (sometimes involving some serious hollering mingled
with a cuss word or two … or nine) is not always over something so
serious as cutting herd numbers, buying high-dollar supplemental feed or
maybe just getting out of the ranching business.
Not
latching a gate as deemed “the way” by Mr. Rancher is a good example of
a situation. It is every bit as inflammatory as deciding if a certain
old sweetheart of a cow should be given the grace to die of old age at
the ranch or take a ride to the sale barn.
The
wife’s get-even for either situation will be to hereinafter latch it
the “wrong” way every time just to aggravate him. After all, latched is
latched.
His
thought is always that his idea is born of brilliance and/or experience
and that her only knowledge is “because her daddy did it that way.” If
“Daddy” comes up in the conversation, the process goes south from there.
Should
a fellow rancher make a suggestion about an identical topic, Mr.
Husband Rancher will consider it with some dedicated thought. But if
it’s the wife idea, it’s always a fight.
And,”
he said, “her hands end up on her hips as she tells me, ‘Well let me
tell you Mr. Rancher, something that you apparently haven’t yet
considered...’ And that’s where the fight began.”
Of course, it is also not a good time for him to mention his mother’s cooking.
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